Okay-

Let me preface this diatribe with one thought- holy sh*t, I've been there, and yeah, it's rough.

I did a lot of reading to mediate my own crisis, which is why I feel absolved as a member of tribes like "armchair psychology," as I sit on my arse and pontificate about all this nonsense to various forms of anthropomorphic nothingness...

Since this post is infinitely more appealing than (continuing) talking to my bedposts at this hour, I decided to send you compassionate awareness of your conundrum, and also the very humble advice I have garnered from my own experiences in the romantic realm.

First off, chances are you're experiencing an animus flare-up. It's where we meet a man who's doing what we want to do, at its most basic level. In some way, this person embodies for you qualities that you want to possess in your own right. Can't tell you how many washed up dudes I've wasted my time on just because they were anything from pool sharks to utter geniuses in my field of study... it could even be something as basic as a man who embodies generosity to you, or courage, or an unmistakeable devotion to freedom or truthfulness...

Since debilitating infatuations strike me with such great regularity, I feel confident that if you look at this person you've become attached to in this new light, it will probably provide some surprising insights for you. If all this sounds like bullsh*t, then, congratulations, your situation is much simpler: you merely need to get yourself laid and/or get some good sex toys, 'cuz them hormones are flarin' up agin'.

Cheers, however, to twitterpations in their own right, independent of ego's designs- what a great way to add more color to your world.

Sarah

Do you find your experience that different from having a crush in real life (the ole fashioned way)?

I suppose it could be even easier to get carried away with an e-crush, since your imagination can really take wing with fewer obstacles to weigh it down.

I like what others have said regarding infatuations and crushes, about the animus (or anima), golden shadow, etc.

I think that also, wrapped up in all of it, is the hopefullness and excitement of possibly creating something really worthwhile with that person, which perhaps doesn't account for the intoxicating effects entirely , but is still no small thing.

It's a relatively tiny percentage of all the people that have been in my life that have had a significant impact (for the good, I should add.) It's an exciting thing when you think that possibly you may have met another person like that.